人们经常会陷入到刺激，牢骚连篇，心情不好的情绪当中。这些情景都会使人身心交瘁。

People who are surrounded by drama, constantly complaining,or are an emotional wreck may be all around you. Here are some signs that your friend may be emotionally draining.

你的关系或者是友情，会令人情绪冲动，或者是感觉身心疲惫。

Your relationship or friendship is emotionally or physically exhaust ing.

经常要做出牺牲去确保他人的需求得到满足

You regularly make sacrifices to make sure your friend's needs are met.

担心他人的事情超过自己的事情

You worry about their issues more than you do about your own well-being.

你不能在生活中做你自己

You cannot be yourself around them

你不再享受与他们在一起的时间，很害怕与他们交谈。

You don't enjoy spending time with them any longer and dread talking with them.

有同理心和同情心是非常好的才能和技巧，但是有的时候呢，他们会导致别人会利用你的善良和慷慨。如果你是一个特别敏感的人，同理心和同情心会让人感觉特别累。如果您的朋友会让你身心疲惫，就要采取措施去关注一下自己的情绪健康。

Having empathy and compassion are incredible gifts and skills to have, but sometimes they can lead people to take advantage of your kindness and generosity. If that happens to you on a consistent basis, it can be particularly draining, especially if you are a highly sensitive person. If you have a friend who is emotionally draining you, be sure you are taking steps to care for your own metal and emotional health.

Refrain from fixing克制助人之[伤心]

无论你多么想去帮助别人，或者是认为你能够做好这件事情，你都需要避免冲进去拯救那些陷入到危机里的人。最好的解决方案就是支持他们，让他们自己去承担他们自己的责任。

No matter how much you want to help or think that you might be able to do something, you need to avoid rushing in to rescue them. Your best strategy is to be supportive but to put the responsibility back on their shoulders.

Know the limits 设界限

设置好自己的界限感。这并不是承认你对某些事情漠不关心或者是麻木不仁，相反的，这样应该能够知道自我价值，界限感以及什么是自身优势。自我价值感与健康的界限相结合能够帮助你防止不平衡的关系。

Knowing the limits does not acknowledge insensitive or selfish. Instead, it's about recognizing your self-worth, your limits, and your priorities. A strong sense of self-worth coupled with healthy limitations helps you prevent imbalances in relationships.

Consider distancing yourself保持距离

如果一段关系或者是友情达到了如下地步，情感被利用，付出远远超出了你的回报，可能到了时候做决定和令人不愉快的朋友和周围不安全的人保持距离的时间了。

If you have come to a point in this friendship where you feel you like you are being taken advantage of, and you are putting in more than you are getting out, it may be time to distance yourself from that friend. This decision may be especially true if your friend has toxic qualities or is an unsafe person for you to be around.

Keep away from people who affect your mood.

远离那些影响你情绪的人。