萨古鲁 Isha
Finding yourself in an emotional loop that seems to be no way of getting out of? Read on as Sonakshi Sinha asks Sadhguru the truth about emotional attachment!
发现自己陷入了似乎无法摆脱的情绪循环？来一起阅读，索纳克什·辛哈（Sonakshi Sinha）向萨古鲁询问关于情感依恋的真相！
Sonakshi Sinha: Dearest Sadhguru ji, I’m a very emotional person, and I often find it very difficult to emotionally detach myself from a situation that I know is not good for me. I can see this is not going somewhere where I want it to go, but it is very difficult to divert my mind and my emotions away from that. I’ll keep thinking about it and dwelling on it, which is something that I don’t want to do. How do you think I can handle that situation?
索纳克什·辛哈： 亲爱的萨古鲁，我是一个非常情绪化的人，而且我经常发现，要从情感上脱离我明知道对我不利的情形是非常困难的。我可以看到那并不是我想要的，但我很难将思想和情绪从那里转移开。我会一直想着它并纠结于它，这不是我想做的。您觉得我应该怎样去处理这种情况呢？
Sadhguru: There is a lot of talk about the head and the heart business. There is no such distinction in the real sense because the way you think is the way you feel. The way you feel is the way you think.
Sadhguru（萨古鲁）： 有很多关于头脑和情绪的讨论。但这二者在真正意义上是没有区别的，因为你的思维方式就是你的感觉。你的感觉就是你的思维方式。
Today, largely because of the type of education, for most people, their thoughts run ahead of their emotions. But there is still a sizeable percentage of people for whom their emotions run ahead of their thought.在今天，主要是因为教育的影响，对于大多人而言，他们的思想是凌驾于情感之上的。但仍有相当比例的人，他们的情感比想法更重要。
For different people, different things run first. Today, largely because of the type of education, for most people, their thoughts run ahead of their emotions. But there is still a sizeable percentage of people for whom their emotions run ahead of their thought. Nowadays, those people whose emotions run ahead of their thought are made to feel stupid because they do not understand the power and the intelligence of emotion, though people are starting to talk about emotional quotient.
不同的人有不同的主导力量。在今天，主要是因为教育的影响，对于大多人而言，他们的思想是凌驾于情感之上的。但仍有相当比例的人，他们的情感比想法更重要。如今，社会让那些情感凌驾于思想之上的人觉得自己很愚蠢，因为他们不了解情感的力量和智慧，虽然人们开始谈论情商了。
Turnaround Time
转变的时间
Now, what Sonakshi is asking is, there are situations that you don’t wish to be in but the emotions are tangled up, so thought keeps going there and unknowingly you keep walking in that direction.
现在，索纳克什所问的是，有些情形是你不希望陷入的，但情绪却与之纠缠在一起，所以你的念头就一直想着它，不知不觉中，你就会一直朝着那个方向走去。
It is just that thought is agile, it can turn around fast. But emotion is sappy. It takes some time to turn around.这不过是因为，思想是灵动的，它可以迅速转变；但情绪是缓慢的，它需要一些时间才能转变过来。
It is just that thought is agile, it can turn around fast. But emotion is sappy. It takes some time to turn around. Today you can think, “Oh! This person is the most wonderful person.” Tomorrow, if that person does something that you don’t like, your thought will immediately say, “She’s no good.” But emotion is not that agile. If my emotions have gone ahead with this person, they cannot turn around so quickly. In the meantime, you struggle.
这不过是因为，思想是灵动的，它可以迅速转变；但情绪是缓慢的，它需要一些时间才能转变过来。今天你可以认为 “哇！这个人是最棒的一个人”。 明天，如果那个人做了一些你不喜欢的事情，你的想法会立马变成 “她一点都不好”。但情感并不是那么的灵活。如果我的情感已经跟这个人站到一起，它们不会那么快地转变过来。在这期间，你就会处于挣扎当中。
Monkeys on the Mind
头脑中的“猴子”
What do you do about this? Don’t try to control your emotions or thoughts because the very nature of your mind is such that “I don’t want to think about this person” means that’s the only person I’m going to think about for the rest of my life.
对此你该怎么做？不要试图控制你的情绪或想法，因为你头脑的本质是这样的："我不要去想着这个人 "意味着这是我余生中唯一会想着的人。
In this mind, you don’t have subtraction and division, you only have addition and multiplication.在头脑里，没有减法和除法，只有加法和乘法。
This is the proverbial monkey story. If we tell you, “Don’t think about monkeys for the next five seconds”, can you not think? Only monkeys! Because this is the nature of your mind. If you say “I do not want something”, only that will happen.
这就是众所周知的猴子故事。如果我们告诉你："在接下来的五秒钟里不要想猴子"，你能不想吗？你只会想着猴子! 因为这就是你头脑的本质。如果你说 "我不想要什么"，那就只有你不想要的会发生。
When compulsive thoughts and emotions come, the first and foremost thing that you do is, you simply see them for what they are – you don’t try to resist them. The moment you resist, they will multiply.
当强迫性的想法和情绪出现时，你首先要做的事情是，你只是看看它们原本的样子——不要试图抵触它们。你一抵触，它们就会成倍地增加。
In this mind, you don’t have subtraction and division, you only have addition and multiplication. If I say, “I don’t want this emotion,” it will add – one will become two. If you say, “Oh my god! It’s coming again, I don’t want it,” it will multiply by hundred. This is the nature of your mind. In this mind, you cannot forcefully remove anything.
在头脑里，没有减法和除法，只有加法和乘法。如果我说："我不想要这种情绪，"它就会增加——“一”就会变成“二”。如果我说："噢，天呐！它又来了，我不想要它，"它将增加百倍。这就是你头脑的本质。在这个头脑中，你不能强行移除任何东西。
Distance From Data
与数据保持距离
What you need to do is understand that thought and emotion are just a recycle of the data that is already there – something that you remember. It is just that memory is a little smelly, so it keeps coming. You just need a little distance from that.
你需要做的是，明白思想和情感只是已存在数据的循环——你的记忆。只是这些记忆有点臭，所以它会不断地出现。你只需要与之保持一点距离即可。
Suppose you were on your way to the airport and you got stuck in a traffic jam. How much anxiety and struggle you would have! Then somehow, you got to the airport and got into the flight and took off. From up there, when you look down, how nice the traffic jam looks! This is simply because there is a little distance. It is still the same traffic jam but because there is a distance, suddenly there is nothing to it.
假设你在去机场的路上遇到了交通堵塞，那你会有多焦虑和纠结! 然后，你设法到了机场，上了飞机，飞机起飞了。当你从上面再往下看时，交通堵塞看起来多么美！这仅仅是因为有了一点距离。仍然是同样的交通堵塞，但因为有了一段距离，突然就没有什么问题了。
Similarly with your thought and emotion, with a little bit of practice, you can create a little distance from your physiological processes and your psychological processes. But if you try to handle individual thought and emotion, they will multiply thousand-fold.
同样，对于你的思想和情绪，只要稍加练习，你就能与你的生理和心理过程产生一点距离。但是如果你试图处理个别的思想和情绪，它们会成千倍地增长。
Sadhguru offers the free guided meditation, Isha Kriya, that helps create a little distance from your physiological and psychological process. Try Isha Kriya online or from Sadhguru App.
萨古鲁提供 免费的引导冥想——Isha Kriya ，它有助于与你的生理和心理过程创造一点距离。可在网上或萨古鲁APP中尝试练习 Isha Kriya 。