普通人之所以是普通人，就是因为有七情六欲，不可能像宋朝文学家苏洵《权书.心术》所说的“泰山崩于前而色不变，麋鹿兴于左而目不瞬”。必然喜欢听好话，憎恶批评。那么如果有人冒犯了你，比如*谤诽**，比如辱骂，怎么办呢？怎么控制心火呢？其实有一个很简单有效的办法，就是你判定一下，如果和他计较除了坏了你的脾气浪费了你的时间有什么收益吗？如果只有负收益没有正收益，那去理他做什么呢？对你一点好处都没有。
其实，地位和成绩都是学出来、干出来的，从来没有靠吵架得来的。明白这一点你就知道怎么做了。
The reason why ordinary people are ordinary people is because they have seven emotions and six desires. It is impossible to be like the song Dynasty writer Su Xun in "Quan Shu. Heart Art" said "Mount Tai collapses in front of you，the color unchanges, elk appears in the left but not instantaneous". people love good words and hate criticism. So what happens if someone offends you, defames you, insults you? How to control heart fire? In fact, there is a very simple and effective way, that is, you decide, if he and dispute in addition to bad your temper， waste your time ，have any benefits? If there's only negative returns and no positive returns, why bother? It's not gonna do you any good.
In fact, status and achievements become from what has been learned and done, never by quarrel. Once you know that, you'll know what to do.