一般来说，内心强大的女人个性独立，聪慧大气，不但对自己要求严格，对伴侣也有要求，遇事当断则断，处事游刃有余，整个家庭氛围积极向上。
而柔弱的小女人性格唯唯诺诺，哭哭啼啼，习惯性依赖伴侣，当婚后遇上一地鸡毛时，除了忍，和向外界求助，根本没有化解危机的能力。
Lanlan is a typical tender woman in love.
When she was 23 years old, she married her husband, Jiaming, under the arrangement of family matchmaking. She had two sons in four years, which was very popular with her mother-in-law. As soon as the old family mentioned Lan Lan, they all admired her. They praised her for her good fortune and good fortune, so that she could marry well and become a rich lady.
Lanlan can have such a happy life, in the final analysis, in addition to beautiful appearance, soft personality is also a major factor. She was not contested since childhood, obedient and obedient. She knew that spoiled women had the best fate. She looked very miserable and pitiful. She was the favorite kind of little woman in a man's heart. Even if she spent her whole life as a full-time wife at home, she enjoyed the day when she didn't have to worry about a penny.
But happiness has a time limit. Life on the surface is like a gorgeous cheongsam, crawling with lice everywhere.
From the eighth year after marriage, the family returned home more and more late and less frequently. Sometimes they went home only twice a month, totally no more than an hour. They did not have enough food. Lanlan felt that she was a transparent person at home.
每次问起晚归的缘由，家明总是一番大道理，言辞凿凿说自己工作很忙，养家很辛苦，做妻子的应该多体谅，而不是过多干涉和责问......
性格软弱如兰岚，每次都被丈夫辩驳得哑口无言，不知所措，甚至有时候觉得自己才是过错方，只好唯唯诺诺的在家等着，等待丈夫下一次的归家。
一次次的失望中，兰岚明白了，原来撒娇女人最好命是假的，用眼泪唤起男人的怜惜也是廉价的，如果自己没有强大的内心，柔软无能，何来掌控婚姻的能力。
Beckham's wife, Beckham's wife, took out the style and strength of a big woman and saved the marital crisis between husband and wife with her strength.
Six years after his marriage, Beckham had an extramarital affair with his assistant.
When she heard the news, Bei was heartbroken, but in front of the camera interviewed by the media, she did not cry or make a big noise, but raised her head and raised her chest proudly: "I always believe in David."
Show a strong attitude of trust, let the voice of suspicion shut up, but also disrupted Beckham's last line of defense, openly apologize and admit mistakes, and thoroughly draw a clear line with the junior three, and make a clean cut.
Bei-siao's tough but discreet high-ranking approach saved this marriage on the verge of collapse. Although we can not judge whether her "forgiveness" should be, from the development of this family, Bei's crisis management is undoubtedly successful.
从那以后，贝嫂出现在众人眼前都是以都市精英女性的形象，而小贝退役后，则成了新一代“家庭煮夫”，每一次出街不是在照顾孩子，就是为妻子的事业做宣传。
这个性格强势、内心强大的女人，处理危机干净利落，一点儿都不拖泥带水。她一手将丈夫从只是小有名气的球星，打造成众人追逐的巨星，又将濒临瓦解的婚姻，挽救成幸福美满的六口之家，实在叫人钦佩。
In fact, in a relationship, most of the quarrels, contradictions and bickering are decided by women's attitude to a large extent.
To make ourselves stronger, take strong measures to manage our emotions and take the initiative; or to be weak, cry when something happens, shed tears and refuse to change ourselves, which depends entirely on our inner choices.
杨澜曾经说过：“婚姻的纽带，不是孩子，不是金钱，而是关于精神的共同成长。在最无助的和软弱的时候，有他（她）托起你的下巴，扳直你的脊梁，令你坚强，并陪伴你左右，共同承受命运。”