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The answers lie within you. You have all the answers. You are whole and complete. Don't believe the stories that you tell yourself, they're just opinions, not fact.
答案就在你心中。你拥有所有的答案。你是完整无缺的。不要相信你告诉自己的故事，它们只是观点，不是事实。
Create a present, not in the past, create a present in the future. The re-imagining of the self.
不是在过去创造现在，而是在未来创造现在。重新想象自我。
Hello, welcome to Easy English. So today, I'm asking the people of Britain about confidence.
大家好，欢迎来到简单英语。今天，我问英国人民关于信心的问题。
Advice they'd give to people on building confidence and examples in their own life where they were lacking a little bit of self-esteem. Here we go.
他们会给人们提供建立自信的建议，并举出自己生活中缺乏自尊的例子。我们开始吧。
What advice would you give on like, self-esteem or confidence?
关于自尊和自信，你会给什么建议？
I think it's about doing the stuff you're good at and enjoying that. So I think if you're struggling with meeting people, finding friends, what I would do is say, what's the thing I like doing? What makes me feel good?
我认为这就是做自己擅长的事情，并乐在其中。所以我认为，如果你在与人交往、寻找朋友的过程中遇到困难，我会说，我喜欢做什么？什么能让我感觉良好？
When did I last feel good? And then try and replicate that. So that helps build your confidence, because you feel, you're adding value back into the group of friends you're with.
我上次感觉良好是什么时候？然后试着复制这种感觉。这样做有助于建立你的自信，因为你会觉得，你正在为你的朋友群体增加价值。
And I think a lot of lacking in confidence is because you don't feel valuable amongst the people you're mixing with.
我认为，缺乏自信很大程度上是因为你在与人交往时感觉不到自己的价值。
So with confidence, I think it's about comfort zones. And I think, if you can pick something that you're interested in, or something you kind of, really into and really, really want to speak about, you'll be able to find your confidence with that.
因此，我认为自信与舒适区有关。我认为，如果你能选择自己感兴趣的事情，或者是你非常喜欢、非常想讲的事情，你就能从中找到自信。
If you're comfortable speaking about it. If you know what you're talking about, then your confidence will come through that.
如果你能自如地谈论它。如果你知道自己在说什么，那么你的自信就会油然而生。
So you should always try and kind of, deviate the conversation the way of, something that you are confident about, something you are interested in, whether it's a sporting event, whether it's... whether it's anything you like, whether it's being at the beach or going for walks.
所以，你应该总是尝试着把谈话内容转移到你有信心、你感兴趣的事情上，无论是体育赛事，还是......无论是你喜欢的任何事情，无论是去海滩还是去散步。
Anything you have the enthusiasm about, speak about that and that'll give you more confidence, I think.
我认为，任何你有热情的事情，都说出来，这会给你更多的信心。
So, I think as my job is as a lecturer, so that does take confidence standing up, in front of a group. And sometimes, you don't always feel it.
我的工作是讲师，站在一群人面前确实需要自信。有时候，你并不总能感觉到这一点。
And... and often perhaps, I don't feel it is, if it's about a topic that I'm not comfortable with. So, I think my top tip, quite often is being prepared.
而且......如果是关于我不太擅长的话题，也许我常常会觉得不自信。所以，我认为我的最好建议往往是做好准备。
So if there's something, like a, whatever you're doing, perhaps always do that preparation and if it's doing a run, or any exercise, just doing a bit of research, erm... talking to friends, getting advice, that type of thing.
所以，如果有什么事情，比如，无论你在做什么，也许总是要做准备工作，如果是跑步或任何运动，只是做一些研究，嗯......与朋友交谈，获得建议，诸如此类的事情。
So that preparation, I think, helps build confidence.
因此，我认为这种准备有助于建立信心。
Well, what I would always do is pretend like I'm really sure in what I'm saying. If you're unsure with yourself, then you're not going to appear confident.
嗯，我总是假装我真的很确定我在说什么。如果你对自己不确定，那么你就不会显得自信。
So just be really sure about what you're saying, because then people will believe that you're a confident, outgoing person. Don't, you know, think too much about what you're saying all the time, just go out, be free with it.
所以，你要对自己说的话非常有把握，因为这样人们才会相信你是一个自信、外向的人。你知道，不要总是想太多你要说的话，只要走出去，自由地表达出来。
Don't directly focus on anyone, if you're talking to them and just be confident in what you're saying, really. You know, believe what you're saying is right.
如果你在和别人交谈，不要直接把注意力集中在任何人身上，只要对自己所说的话充满信心，真的。要知道，相信自己说的是对的。
What advice would you give to someone who wants to appear or seem or feel more confident?
你会给那些想显得、看起来或感觉更自信的人什么建议？
Breathe and believe. That's it That's it.
深呼吸并相信自己。就是这样，就是这样。
Physically breathing and believing mentally?
身体上呼吸和精神上相信？
However you want to take that. Breathe and believe.
不管你想怎么做。深呼吸，相信自己。
Breathe slowly or breathe quickly?
慢慢呼吸还是快速呼吸？
Depends. Breathe and believe.
看情况。深呼吸并相信自己。
Breathe and believe.
深呼吸并相信自己。
Hello! So unfortunately, we didn't get so many interviews for this episode, storm Eunice had other ideas.
你好！所以不幸的是，这一集我们没有得到这么多采访，风暴尤妮斯有自己的想法。
So, I thought, in fact, that I'd give you my opinion, if you'll take it. So I believe that you can't just sort of magically improve your self-esteem, you have to own it, I think.
所以，我想，事实上，如果你愿意，我可以把我的观点告诉你。我认为，你不能神奇地提高你的自尊心，你必须拥有它。
And that involves, you sort of, understanding why you're lacking, in certain senses.
这涉及到，在某种意义上，理解你为什么缺乏自信。
Maybe you were bullied in school, maybe you lost your job, or you just know that you're lacking in some sort of, skill in life.
也许你在学校被欺负，也许你失业了，或者你只是知道你缺乏某种生活技能。
I think, it's also worth realising that everybody has some sort of neuroticism in their life and that most people who are outwardly confident are usually doing this to compensate for something, which makes them feel a little bit insecure.
我认为，同样值得意识到的是，每个人在生活中都有某种神经质，大多数外表自信的人通常这样做是为了补偿一些事情，让他们感到有点不安的事情。
I personally, actually, love people who admit to their failures in life and who, admit that they are quite insecure about things.
实际上，就我个人而言，我喜欢承认自己生活失败的人，承认他们对事情很没有安全感。
I think it makes people really modest and quite humble, which is a very attractive quality, I think. So I dubbed this the ''8 Mile'' approach based on the Eminem film.
我认为它让人们变得非常谦虚，我认为这是一个非常有吸引力的品质。根据阿姆的电影我称之为“8 英里”方法。
I think, if you're feeling nervous or emotional, you're probably best-off just outwardly admitting it. I think people can often see behind any sort of, ruse anyone has, if they're pretending to be okay. I think it's quite easy to see through this.
我认为，如果你感到紧张或情绪化，你最好对外承认。我认为人们经常可以看到任何人的背后一面，如果他们假装没事。我认为很容易被看穿。
And to be honest, I think most people, if you admit this, will have empathy towards you or they should show empathy towards you.
老实说，如果你承认这一点，我想大多数人都会对你产生共鸣，或者说他们应该对你产生共鸣。
So for me personally, I have a confidence issue in speaking another language.
因此，就我个人而言，我在说另一种语言时存在自信心问题。
I work in the Easy Languages network and all of our meetings are held in English, so I get to see the level of English that all the non-native speakers have, and it's truly amazing.
我在 "轻松语言 "网络公司工作，我们所有的会议都是用英语举行的，所以我可以看到所有非母语人士的英语水平，这真的很令人惊讶。
So it does make me very self-conscious that my German is absolutely nowhere near the level of English that they have. And so, I find it's just better for me to admit this, that I'm not very comfortable, or confident speaking another language yet.
因此，我的德语水平远远比不上他们的英语水平，这让我非常自卑。因此，我发现还是承认这一点比较好，我还不能很自如或自信地讲另一种语言。
And yeah, everyone is very receptive to this. And I think, if you have confidence issues speaking English, then I think you should just tell people and I'm sure they'll accept you.
是的，每个人都很容易接受。我认为，如果你对说英语有信心，那么我认为你应该告诉别人，我相信他们会接受你的。
So I have a means to defeating my confidence issue, which is through my language app. And now, I personally recommend Busuu, who kindly agreed to sponsor this video.
因此，我有一个战胜自信心问题的方法，那就是通过我的语言应用程序 APP。现在，我个人向大家推荐 Busuu，它非常乐意赞助本视频。
So if you're learning or want to start learning a language, then follow the link here, which is clickable down in the description below and you can start learning for free.
所以如果你正在学习或想开始学习一门语言，然后点击这里的链接，在下面的描述中可以点击，你可以开始免费学习。
Or, they even have a seven day trial of their premium features, which I really recommend. So the thing I like the most about Busuu is there are many ways to learn a language through their app.
或者，他们甚至提供为期七天的高级功能试用版，我非常推荐。因此，我最喜欢 Busuu 的一点是，通过他们的 APP，有很多学习语言的方法。
I tend to get quite bored, when you have the same lerning method, but with Busuu, you get to watch videos, listen to audio, read texts and practise your pronunciations and have it reviewed by the fellow native users.
当您使用相同的学习方法时，我往往会感到非常无聊，但使用 Busuu，您可以观看视频、听音频、阅读文本和练习发音，并让其他用户对其进行检查。
A great feature is its study plan, which helps keep me motivated and not overwhelm me with unrealistic goals. So we're all busy people, I imagine, and we need to set our own times for learning.
它的一大特色是学习计划，这有助于保持我的学习动力，不会让我被不切实际的目标压垮。我想，我们都是大忙人，需要设定自己的学习时间。
And Busuu recognises this and it is really great at breaking down everything into achievable lessons and to help keep you motivated and engaged.
Busuu 认识到了这一点，它非常擅长将一切分解成可实现的课程，并帮助你保持动力和参与度。
So click on this link, which is also in the description below, to quickly take to Busuu and help you start learning a language for free. Now back to the episode.
所以点击这个链接，也在下面的描述中，快速进入 Busuu，帮助你开始免费学习一门语言。现在回到这一集。
I'm going to play like, devil's advocate right now. Let's say you're not in a group and you're not doing anything which is particularly rehearsed.
我现在要扮演魔鬼代言人的角色。比方说，你没有参加一个团体，也没有做任何特别排练过的事情。
Let's say, you're on a date for this scenario, with someone that you think; oh, I'd love to be with that person, but you have just, crippling anxiety about this kind of thing.
比方说，在这种情况下，你正在和一个你认为的人约会；哦，我很想和那个人在一起，但你对这种事情有一种令人窒息的焦虑。
Smile a lot.
经常微笑。
Yeah?
是吗？
Yeah. Smile a lot and tell yourself that you are confident, really. Stand tall, always stand tall; the way that you walk's really important, I think.
对。经常微笑，告诉自己你很自信，真的。挺直腰杆，永远挺直腰杆；我认为走路的方式非常重要。
And eye contact; you must make eye contact at all time, I would say. Not look away, but make eye contact, yeah.
还有眼神交流；我想说，你必须一直进行眼神交流。不是看别处，而是眼神交流，是的。
Okay. Stand tall and make eye... so lots of physical...
好吧。站得高高的，做眼睛…这么多身体…
Physicalit... The way you enter a room's really important. The way you stand is important. Yeah, you can deceive somebody that you're really confident, yeah.
身体上的……你进入房间的方式非常重要。你站的方式也很重要。你可以欺骗别人，说你非常自信。
I was a drama teacher in the inner city, in White Chapel, for 33 years. So I spent a life giving children... inner city kids; challenging, confidence, the belief that the answers lie within them. The transformation of the self.
我曾在白教堂内城当了 33 年的戏剧老师。因此，我的一生都在告诉孩子们......城市里的孩子们；挑战、自信、相信答案就在他们心中，自我的转变。
And if you want to read more about it, plug it! Shameless!
如果你想了解更多相关信息，请点击此处！有点无耻！
''IN SEARCH: Reimagining What It Means To Be A Teacher'', Daniel Shindler; you can get in ''Amnesty'', in Brighton, in the North Laine, get it now, loads of advice there.
《寻找：重新认识教师的意义》，丹尼尔-辛德勒；你可以在布莱顿北莱恩的 "大赦 "书店买到，现在就去买，那里有很多建议。
In my world, I feel very nervous around talking to new people, 'cos you always have that... kind of, am I... am I any good at what I do and I don't think that ever goes, I don't think it ever leaves you.
在我的世界里，与新朋友交谈时我感到非常紧张，因为你总是会有那种......我......我是否擅长我所做的事情的感觉，我不认为这种感觉会消失、我认为它永远不会离开你。
But what I've learnt, is to listen, really well, to the way people are talking.
但我学到的是，要认真倾听人们说话的方式。
Even with... like now, obviously, a lot of it's online. But look at people, look at the room they're in, look at the space they're taking up and just... just try and picture how that conversation is going to go.
即使......比如现在，很明显，很多对话都是在网上进行的。但看看人们，看看他们所处的房间，看看他们所占的空间，然后......试着想象一下对话将如何进行。
And obviously, the best thing is age and experience, in a lot of ways. Because, you understand different types of people have different needs. But if the person that I... if I've got a new client, for example, I will try to get to know them, ask them questions, keep it fairly light. Make sure I feel comfortable in my space, especially on things like ''Zoom''.
显然，从很多方面来说，最好的是年龄和经验。因为，你知道不同类型的人有不同的需求。但是如果我的人…例如，如果我有一个新客户，我会努力了解他们，向他们提问，保持轻松愉快。确保我在自己的空间里感到舒适，尤其是在''Zoom''这样的场合。
So, make sure it's tidy, all that boring stuff, that always... you always think; Oh! But actually, if you feel confident in your space, then that will help that conversation.
所以，一定要确保整洁，所有那些无聊的东西，你总是......你总是想；哦！但实际上，如果你对自己的空间有信心，那就会有助于对话。
So, say for new clients, I'll make sure my office looks nice and tidy, that I'm having a conversation that I feel... about things I know about. So, yeah.
所以，比如说，对于新客户，我会确保我的办公室看起来整洁漂亮，我的谈话让我觉得......是关于我所了解的事情。所以，是的。
Fantastic, that was really great.
太棒了，真的很棒。
Well kind of recently, I did have to like present things to... to my class, 'cos erm... in college. And, I had to present things to like, put myself forward as a candidate.
最近，我不得不向......向我的班级展示一些东西，因为......在大学里。我必须把自己作为候选人介绍给大家。
And so, I just kind of, stood up there and just tried to say like, I'm... I'm really great for being a candidate, even though I knew that I wasn't the best suited candidate.
所以，我就站在台上，试着说：我……我真的很适合当候选人，尽管我知道我不是最合适的候选人。
But it worked anyway, I did get... I was nominated to be a class representative, even though I probably wasn't the best person.
但不管怎样，它起作用了，我确实得到了……我被提名为班级代表，尽管我可能不是最好的人。
I have to do a lot of speaking to... to groups of people and hosting meetings.
我必须经常对......对一群人讲话，主持会议。
And even now, after years of doing it, before every single meeting, I get that feeling of anxiety, it's the same people I deal with every time, it's the same subjects and I always start with that anxiety, that kind of, panic of; Oh, what if I say the wrong thing?
即使是现在，我已经这样做了很多年，每次开会之前，我都会有一种焦虑感，每次面对的都是同样的人，同样的主题，我总是从那种焦虑开始，那种恐慌；哦，如果我说错话了怎么办？
What if something goes wrong? The confidence comes when I step up there, I always start with a little kind of, maybe, a little anecdote or a little erm... breaking the ice with a joke, maybe, that's always good.
如果出了什么问题怎么办？当我站在那里时，信心就来了，我总是先说一些趣闻轶事，或者......用一个笑话打破僵局，这样总是很好的。
And that relaxes me more than anything. And then, the confidence there, comes where I can speak about the subjects we need to speak about and get the point across.
这比什么都让我放松。然后，我就有了自信，可以谈论我们需要谈论的话题，并把重点表达出来。
Oh right, so you think of... you've sort of, put into place something which you've... not rehearsed as much, but you know the... you know where the story goes.
哦，对了，所以你想......你已经把你......没有排练那么多，但你知道......你知道故事的走向。
Yes. Yeah, the hardest part is starting, I think, with confidence.
是的。是的，我认为最难的部分是自信地开始。
Right, yeah.
哦，对。
Once you get involved and start doing it, whether it's on the karaoke machine, or whether it's in front of... in front of your class, speaking about a subject or reading from the book, that first line will always be the most uncomfortable you will be.
一旦你参与并开始做这件事，无论是在卡拉 OK 机上，还是在......在全班同学面前，谈论某个话题或朗读书本，第一句话永远是你最不舒服的时候。
Once you break that barrier, you will gain in confidence, you... you'll speak better, you'll... you'll talk better, you'll present yourself better.
一旦你打破了这个障碍，你就会获得自信，你…你会说得更好，你会…你会说得更好，你会更好地展示自己。
And it's all about that first little bit, getting through that, I think.
我认为，关键在于最初的那一点点，熬过去就好了。
That's really good, are you... do you do the karaoke?
真的很不错，是吗…你唱卡拉 OK 吗？
Sometimes.
有时候会。
Nice.
不错。
Thanks for watching this week's episode.
感谢收看本周的节目。
Let us know in the comments below your tips and tricks on building confidence or appearing more confident.
请在下面的评论中告诉我们你建立自信或表现得更自信的技巧和诀窍。
Also, let us know in the comments below if you like the fact that we appear in the videos and give our opinion. D'you wanna see it more in the future, or do you wanna see less of me in the future?
此外，如果您喜欢我们出现在视频中并发表意见，请在下面的评论中告诉我们。你们是想以后看到更多，还是想以后少看到我？
Let us know. And we'll see you next week, bye.
让我们知道。我们下周见，再见。