我来说点大家可能都有切身体会的东西。
为什么一些大龄剩男觉得自己可以娶20-25岁年轻姑娘？ 在日常生活中，我猜很多人应该都听过类似的疑问。而且应该基本都是从大龄剩女口中听到的。
这个场景也很好还原，基本就是大龄剩女认识了个大龄剩男，然后感觉对方还不错。但大龄剩男居然没有 对她很感兴趣，甚至话里话外表达了自己准备找25岁小女生的意愿。
然后大龄剩女就开始不服气了，他这 不好那不好，我还没嫌弃他呢，他凭啥看不上我。我这么优秀，比小女生不强多了？小女生除了年轻，还 有哪好？
男人果然都是垃圾，就喜欢年轻的，以后早晚也是个出轨的渣男。我这么好，看上他是他的福 气，他居然还想找个年轻的？他也不拿个镜子照一照，年轻的能看上他？真是没有自知之明，大龄剩男果 然都是奇葩，普通却自信。
如果你也是有上面这种想法的大龄剩女，我先不说对错。我希望你先别发脾气，先静下心来想一想我接下 来说的话。 你是个女生，你的择偶标准是什么？你有没有跟比你小五岁甚至十岁的女生聊过天？你有没有关注过，她 们的择偶标准是什么？
我不谈对错，我只希望你能好好想一想，你的择偶标准和这些小女生相比，是更高还是更低了？ 其实并不是大龄剩男自信自己可以娶20-25岁的年轻姑娘。
而是，很多女生，你和比你小五岁甚至十岁的 女生择偶标准是一样的，甚至你标准还更高。
那请问，你们标准一样，男生为啥要选你？ 当然也有一批女生会说，我比小女生择偶标准高，是因为我优秀。但就我观察，很多女生都是自认为优 秀，而且是只有你们自己这么认为。
还是那句话，先别生气，先想想，你所谓的优秀，是不是和小女生比，你工资更高，你资源人脉更丰富， 你会做饭，甚至你可能有房有车有户口。 说实话，这些如果放在男生身上，实打实都是优点。因为这些在男生身上，都是有利他性的。
男生工资 高，就会对女生的要求更低，也会有能力给女生花更多的钱。男生资源人脉丰富，就会愿意动用资源帮女 生。男生会做饭，就会愿意给女生做饭。男生有房有车有户口，就可以接受女生没房没车没户口了。
不要 提少数的奇葩，在大多数男生眼里，这些都是理所当然的。 但作为一个女生，你会这么想吗？这些条件放在你身上，有利他性吗？女生工资高，你能接受男生工资低 吗？你会愿意给男生花更多的钱吗？你只会说凭什么，你又不是在养小白脸。女生资源人脉丰富，你会愿 意动用资源帮男生吗？你只会抱怨他怎么啥都要靠老娘。
女生会做饭，你会心甘情愿给男生做饭吗？你只 会抱怨他干嘛不找个保姆。女生有房有车有户口，你可以接受男生没房没车没户口吗？你只会说怎么可 能，你又不是在扶贫。 所以所谓的工资高，资源人脉丰富，会做饭，有房有车有户口。
男生有这些，叫优点。因为男生有这些， 就可以不要求女生有这些了。而女生有这些，很多时候可能不叫优点。因为女生有这些，只会要求男生也 有，甚至一定要比自己有的更多。这叫什么优点？这叫提高门槛罢了。
现在很多男生现实的很，房子有了，再多一套有很大用处吗？还不如用自己有房的优势，换一个对方无房 但年轻。
不要认为男生有房有车就会要门当户对，就会要女生也一定有房有车。要那么多车干嘛？开滴滴吗？要那么多房干嘛？开旅馆吗？ 关键是现在很多小女生也现实的很。
自己年轻，找个同龄的，一样年轻的，有啥用吗？两个人一起努力， 一起打拼，对方一定拼的出一片天吗？用自己的年轻，换对方有车有房对自己好，不香吗？或者说的浪漫 一些，反正都是找爱情，谁规定只有同龄才有真爱。
小鲜肉的真爱，只有真爱。大叔的真爱，如果找到 了，还附赠房车呢。
在有钱人里找真爱，就是肮脏拜金，那在真爱里找个有钱的行不行呢？谁规定真爱只 有一个？丘比特是你哥？他偷偷告诉你的？反正都要找，干嘛不在物质条件好的人群里找呢？ 最后，还是那句话，我不评价对错，我只是简单的阐述一个当下残酷的现实。
现在的小女生，越来越成熟了，反而是很多大龄剩女，越来越幼稚。
对于大龄剩女，你的对手其实从来不是男生，你的对手是你周围的其他女生。
不是大龄剩男自信自己能娶到小女生，而是小女生一旦成熟现实起来，好多大龄剩女，你是真的拼不过人家。
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Let me just say something that you probably all know firsthand.
Why do some older men think they can marry young women aged 20-25? In daily life, I guess many people should have heard similar questions. And I think it's mostly from older leftover women.
This scene is also very good to restore, is basically the old leftover woman met a old leftover man, and then feel the other side is good. But the older man did not show much interest in her, and even expressed his intention to find a 25-year-old girl.
Then the older woman began to be unconvinced, he this is not good that is not good, I did not abandon him, he with what look down upon me. I'm so good, I'm not better than a little girl, okay? What's so good about girls besides being young?
Men as expected are garbage, like young, later sooner or later is also a cheat cheating women's feelings of the man. He's lucky I'm nice enough to have a crush on him, and he wants someone younger? He also did not take a mirror to look at him, young can see him? It is really no self-knowledge, older leftover men are strange, ordinary but confident.
If you also have this kind of idea of the older woman, I don't say right or wrong. I want you to calm down and think about what I'm going to say before you lose your temper. You're a girl. What are your criteria? Have you ever talked to a girl who is five or even ten years younger than you? Have you ever paid attention to what they choose a mate for?
I'm not talking about right or wrong. I just want you to think about whether your standards for choosing a spouse are higher or lower than those of these little girls. It's not that older men are confident they can marry 20-25 year olds.
It's that, for many girls, you have the same standards as a girl five or ten years younger than you, and you have even higher standards.
So, you guys have the same criteria. Why would a guy pick you? Of course, there are also a group of girls will say, I than little girls choose a mate standard is high, because I am excellent. But from what I've seen, a lot of girls think they're awesome, and it's just you.
Or that sentence, don't get angry, first think, your so-called excellent, is not and little girls than, your salary is higher, your resources and contacts are richer, you can cook, even you may have a house and a car have a hukou. To be honest, these are all advantages when it comes to boys. Because these are all advantageous in boys.
With a higher salary, a man will demand less from a woman and be able to spend more money on her. Men with more resources and connections will be willing to use them to help girls. If a guy can cook, he'll want to cook for a girl. The boy has the room to have the car to have the registered permanent residence, can accept the girl to have no room to have no car to have the registered permanent residence.
Don't mention a few weird, in the eyes of most boys, these are taken for granted. But as a girl, do you think so? Do these conditions apply to you in a favorable way? Can you accept a boy's low salary while a girl's salary is high? Would you be willing to pay more for a guy? All you say is why? You're not raising a boy. Girls have a lot of resources and connections. Would you be willing to use them to help guys? All you do is complain about how he depends on me for everything.
Girls can cook, would you be willing to cook for a boy? All you do is complain about why he didn't get a babysitter. The girl has the room to have the car to have the registered permanent residence, you can accept the boy to have no room to have the car to have no registered permanent residence? All you talk about is how. You're not helping the poor. So the so-called high salary, rich resources and contacts, can cook, have a house and a car and a hukou.
Boys have these, called advantages. Because guys have these, they don't have to ask girls to have these. And girls have these, a lot of times may not be called advantages. Because girls have these, will only require boys to have, even must have more than their own. What kind of advantage is that? It's called raising the bar.
Now of a lot of boys reality very, the house had, again many have very useful? Still be inferior to use oneself to have the advantage of a house, change a other party to have no house but young.
Do not think that the boys have a house and a car will be the same, the girls will also have a house and a car. What do you need all those cars for? Drive a drop? Why do we need so many rooms? A hotel? The point is that a lot of young girls are realistic these days.
Oneself young, find a age, as young, what use? Two people work hard together, struggle together, the other side must spell out a day? With their own young, for the other side has a car and a house to their good, not sweet? Or romantic some, anyway, are looking for love, who rules only age only true love.
True love, only true love. Uncle's true love, and if you find it, you get an RV.
In the rich to find true love, is dirty worship money, that in the true love to find a rich line? Who says there can only be one true love? Cupid is your brother? He told you in confidence? Anyway, why not look for people with better material conditions? In the end, again, I'm not judging right or wrong, I'm simply illustrating the harsh reality of the moment.
Today's little girls are becoming more and more mature, while many older leftover women are becoming more and more childish.
For older women, your opponents are never guys, your opponents are the other girls around you.
It's not that old leftover men are confident that they can marry little girls, but that once the little girls are mature and realistic, many old leftover women, you really can't fight them.