所谓人比人气死人。由于境遇、家境、机遇等等的不同，我们时常发现，年龄相仿的同辈比自己优秀百倍千倍，这时如何摆正心态？网上看到篇好文，关于如何端正态度，活出自我价值。对最后一条尤为赞同：人生是场马拉松，而非短距离冲刺。快到终点线时，你会发现其实和你一同竞赛的人一直都是你自己而已。
但原文章作者未提及我认为非常重要的一点。
说之前插一句一个朋友曾和我分享过NBA明星洛杉矶湖人队主将科比·布莱恩特的一件轶事——
记者：科比，你为什么如此成功？
科比反问：你知道洛杉矶凌晨4点的样子吗？
记者摇摇头。
科比：我知道每一天凌晨4点洛杉矶的样子。
我想说的是，别忘了当你在娱乐玩耍睡懒觉的时候，别人在为自己的梦想努力。所以当别人比你成功的时候，别觉得是上天对不住你了。
翻译版——
How can you overcome your envy of people who are your age but are far more successful than you
对同龄精英的羡慕嫉妒恨说不
1. You have ZERO idea what their personal lives are actually like, or if their outward appearance of success is total bullshit.
你对他们私底下真正的生活一无所知 ，而他们外表下的成功或许只是个传说。
2. Stop focusing outward, focus inward. A preoccupation with the success of others is taking time away from tending your own internal garden.
别总是往外看，多关注内心。你越是关注别人的成功，越是缩减了打理自己内心花园的时间。
3. Believing in common measures of success (money, position, family) is believing in a ready-made lunch box of meaning that society is opening up and shoving down your throat. WHO CARES. Figure out what success is for yourself and then just focus on pursuing that.
认同对成功所谓的定义（金钱、地位、家族），就是在向世俗社会的现成午餐便当低头，掐住了你命运的咽喉。有谁在乎？找到自己对成功的定义，并专注地将其实现。
4. You are in your 20s, so be prepared to witness some epic personal collapses of those whom you are currently envious of.
你现在只不过20多岁，而那些你现在嫉妒的人或许哪天突然崩盘。
5. You can't do anything besides what you can do. If you're giving it your all and staying focused on your values, then your life is progressing exactly as it should be. Did you hear that? EXACTLY AS IT SHOULD BE.
除了做你擅长的事之外，你其他别无所长。如果你倾注全部，一心一意地专注自我价值，那你的人生才真正地步入正轨。你听进去了吗？ 真正地步入正轨。
6. When you have an episode of crippling self-doubt, picture each doubt as a single sheet of paper. Then crunch all of them together and throw them into the toilet of your mind. Now angrily kick-flush that toilet with your foot.
当你倍受自我怀疑所煎熬，把每一条怀疑想象为一张纸。把它们揉成一团，扔进你脑中的马桶。现在，用脚奋力踩下冲厕器。
7. Actively work to express gratitude for what you do have every morning. The happiest people I know are full of gratitude, and they are profoundly in touch with their innate talents.
每天早晨积极表达你对所拥有事物的感恩之情。我所认识的最幸福的人，都充满感恩，而他们和自己与生俱来的才华联系极为紧密。
8. Before you read number nine, think of at least one person who thinks you're awesome. Try to think of yourself as that person does.
在你看第九条前，想想至少一个你认为非常棒的人。试着把自己想象成那个人。
9. Isn't the universe so vast, so deep, so incredibly amazing? Who could possibly worry about a 3200 dollar difference in salary when there are stars supernova-ing right this very minute?
宇宙是不是如此之大，如此之深，如此奇妙？此时此刻，有多少星星正在向超新星转变，谁愿意去想3200刀的薪水差异？
10. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Near the finish line, you'll realize you've only been racing against yourself.
人生是场马拉松，而非短距离冲刺。快到终点线时，你会发现其实和你一同竞赛的人一直都是你自己而已。