#以书之名#Don't do to others what you don't want, and compare your heart to your heart to win people's hearts.
You have to believe that there is no obstacle that cannot be overcome in this world, there is no difficulty that cannot be overcome, and one day, you will get a satisfactory answer!
Be a human being, don't blame anyone, good people give you happiness, bad people make you grow, those who care about you give you warmth, and those who hurt you give you experience.
Thanks for all the encounters, everything is the best arrangement. Blaming others and complaining about others will only increase your own resentment and make you feel tired. It's better to be less optimistic, think from a different angle, and think about it. Actually, there is nothing strange about it.
When dealing with people, when encountering problems, look for reasons from yourself and blame others less. Many times, some problems seem to be caused by others, but they are actually caused by themselves.
If you blindly tolerate and compromise, you think you are not wrong, but in fact you are really wrong, you have lost your principles, you have lost your bottom line, and you have lost your dignity.
In social life, it is inevitable to cooperate with others. What kind of people to choose as your friends and partners is a real question worth thinking about.
01. Character first is the principle
Confucius said in "The Analects of Confucius - Duke Ling of Wei": "The gentleman takes righteousness as the quality, the propriety follows it, the grandson brings it out, and the faith succeeds. The gentleman is a gentleman!" Expressed in a humble language and completed with a loyal attitude, this is a gentleman. It can be seen that Sage Kong attaches great importance to a person's character.
Everyone has their own interests, and the key is what the purpose of the interests is. Some people jumped up and down, drilled into the sky, formed gangs, double-sided, played tricks, and rhetorically, all for their own personal interests. They may be more capable and good at deceiving people, and sometimes they seem to have the face of a gentleman or a benevolent and moral person, but in fact their hearts are very dirty and vicious. It is better to keep such people at a distance, and never become friends or partners. Although it is impossible for us to be like saints in the world for the public and selfless dedication, but only if a person has a heart of kindness, benevolence and integrity, can we help each other and overcome difficulties together.
02. Attitude second is fundamental
In doing things, there are always failures or difficulties, but only those who can always be dedicated to their work and persevere with a tireless attitude will have the possibility of success. Opportunists are friends in good times, and the first to desert you in bad times. Mr. Lu Xun said: The backbone of China is those spectators who are still running behind, and who are not smiling when they see such athletes. Therefore, when we look at a person, we should not only look at the appearance of the person, but also look at the attitude of the person and the way of doing things. Most of the children of wealthy families have been spoiled in every possible way since childhood. Generally, not many can endure hardships, and few succeed. Those who have been tempered since childhood are better able to withstand the test of wind and rain.
To judge whether a person has the potential for development, it is necessary to combine his personality, family situation and mental state. The key to the inability of many smart people to succeed is the lack of a serious, hard-working and in-depth work attitude. It's not that people who are on the same road will not be able to get together after all. Only by choosing like-minded friends will they truly make up their minds.
03. The third ability is the foundation
When looking at people, don't just look at ability, because ability is sometimes just a basis for people's development. Some people may not be very capable in a certain area, but they are very helpful and supportive to themselves, and they can also become good partners; some people who think they are very capable and high-level are more difficult to cooperate with others. Capabilities are complementary, and mutual support and understanding will lead to mutual progress and improvement. People cannot be omnipotent, and character and attitude should always be placed in a more important position in cooperation. "Morality first" and "having both ability and political integrity" are not only criteria for selecting talents, but also criteria for selecting friends or partners. We must adhere to our own standards when selecting colleagues or fellow travelers.
#英语#
己所不欲勿施于人，将心比心得到人心。
你要相信， 这个世上没有过不去的坎，没有熬不过的难，总有一天，会得到满意的答案！
做人，不要去怪任何人，好的人给你快乐，坏的人让你成长，关心你的人给你温暖，伤害你的人给你经历。
感恩所有的遇见，一切都是最好的安排。怪别人，抱怨别人，只会增加自己的怨气，让自己心累。不如看淡点，换个角度思考，想开了，其实也没啥好怪的。
为人处事，遇到问题，多从自己身上找原因，少去责怪他人。很多时候，有些问题看似是别人造成的，其实是自己造成的。
如果你一味的忍让，委曲求全，你以为你没有错，其实你真的错了，你失去了你的原则，你失去了你的底线，还失去了你的尊严。
在社会生活中，与人合作是难免的，选择怎样的人作为自己的朋友和伙伴，这是一个实实在在的值得思考的问题。
01、人品第一是原则
孔子《论语-卫灵公》 里曰：“君子义以为质，礼以行之，孙以出之，信以成之。君子哉！” 意思：君子以义作为根本，用礼加以推行，用谦逊的语言来表达，用忠诚的态度来完成，这就是君子了。可见孔圣人对一个人的人品是非常看重的。
人都有自己的利益诉求，关键是利益诉求的目的是为了什么。有的人窜上跳下，钻天打洞，拉帮结派，两面三刀，玩弄权术，巧言令色，无非是为了自己的个人利益。他们可能能力比较强，善于迷惑人，有时似乎还是一副正人君子抑或是仁义道德的嘴脸，实则内心肮*毒脏**辣得很。这样的人还是敬而远之比较好，是切不可以成为朋友或合作伙伴的。我们虽不可能做到如圣人般天下为公，无私奉献，但一个人有一颗善良、仁爱和诚信之心，才可以与之一起同舟共济，共度难关。
02、态度第二是根本
做人做事，总有失败或困顿的时候，但能始终以敬业之心，以孜孜不倦的态度顽强坚持者，才会有成功的可能。投机取巧者在顺利时是朋友，逆境时会第一个弃你而去。鲁迅先生说：中国的脊梁是那些落后仍在奔跑，以及见了这样的运动员肃然不笑的看客。所以我们看人不要只看表面的形象怎么样，而是要看他做人做事的态度。家境富裕者的孩子大部分从小就是百般宠爱，一般能吃苦的不多，成事者很少。从小历经磨砺的人更能经受住风雨的考验。
判断一个人能否有发展的潜力，要结合他的个性、家庭境况和思想状况。很多聪明人不能成事的关键，是缺乏认真刻苦、深入钻研的工作态度。不是同路人终究是走不到一块的，要选择志同道合的朋友才会真正交心。
03、能力第三是基础
看人始终不要只看能力，因为能力有的时候只是人的一个发展的基础。有些人可能某方面的能力不很强，但对自己的帮助和支持却是很大，同样可以成为良好的合作伙伴；有些自以为能力很强、水平很高的人比较难以与人合作。能力具有互补性，彼此之间相互支持、理解，就会共同进步和提高。人不可能是全能型的，在合作中始终要把人品和态度放在更重要的位置。“以德为先”，“德才兼备”不仅是选用人才的标准，也是选择朋友或者合作伙伴的标准，选择同行者或是同路人，我们要坚持自己的标准。