今天热搜上有一个话题是“女朋友一定要哄吗？”
One of today's trending topics was "Do girlfriends have to be coaxed?"
有一个高赞的评论是这样回答的：
One highly praised comment replied:
要，一定要。我知道我自己错了，但是我就是想听你哄我，我会道歉，但是我还是好难过，想抱抱。
Do, do. I know I'm wrong, but I just want to listen to you coax me, and I'll apologize, but I still feel bad and I want to hug.
其实女生就是一种奇怪又可爱的生物，在她们眼里“哄”是可以直接和“爱”划等号的。
In fact, the girl is a strange and lovely creature, in their eyes "coax" can be directly equated with "love".
在《亲爱的弗洛伊德》里有这样一句话：
There's this line in Dear Freud:
如果她哭，我不哄她，我怕她以为我不爱她。
If she cries, I do not coax her, I am afraid she thinks I do not love her.
真正爱你的人，一定会用心去哄你。
The one who really loves you will coax you with his heart.
上个周末在商场朋友碰碰到一对正在吵架的小情侣，女生撅着嘴一脸低着头一言不发，男生笑着弯下腰说：“这是谁家的小朋友啊，生气的样子一点都不可爱。”
Last weekend, in the shopping mall, my friend met a couple who were quarreling with each other. The girl pouted and kept her head down without saying a word, while the boy smiled and bent down and said, "Who is this kid? It's not cute to be angry."
“那怎么办，我就是不高兴。”女生委屈巴巴地说，眼圈里都擎着泪。
"So what? I'm just not happy." The girl grievance badbadly say, eye rim all hold tear.
“我带你去吃可爱多吧，吃了会变可爱。”男生一脸宠溺地摸着她的头，女孩乖乖地被男生揽在怀里。
"I take you to eat lovely much, eat will become lovely." The boy one face dote on to touch her head, the girl obediently by the boy embrace in the arms.
女孩子有的时候确实喜欢闹，但是她们的气来得快去得也快，很多时候是表面上还假装生气，心里早就偷偷原谅了对方。
Girls sometimes do like to make trouble, but their anger comes and goes quickly, a lot of time is on the surface and pretend to be angry, the heart has long secretly forgive each other.
她们真正在乎的是男生的态度，之所以想要被哄是想要被在乎，想要知道自己在对方心里的地位是毋庸置疑的。
What they really care about is the attitude of the boy. They want to be coaxed because they want to be cared about. They want to know their status in the other man's heart is beyond doubt.
足够爱你的人，也从来不认为你的小脾气是做作，会觉得那是恰到好处的可爱。
Enough love you, also never think your little temper is affected, will feel that it is just lovely.
这让我想到黄磊曾在一档综艺里被问到会不会和太太孙莉吵架的时候，黄磊自信地笑着说：
This reminds me of huang Lei's confident smile in a variety show when he was asked if he would quarrel with his wife Sun Li.
“基本上不会，因为我会把她哄好。平日里，该摸摸，该抱抱，没事就么么哒。”
"Hardly, because I'll keep her nice. On weekdays, you should touch, you should hug, you should do nothing."
一段好的感情，不是平淡如水波澜不惊，而是该哭哭该闹闹，哭过闹过之后我还能哄着你笑。
A good feeling, not plain water placid, but the cry cry the trouble, cry after the trouble I can coax you laugh.
就像苏岑说的那样：
As Sutzen puts it:
房子无需太大，阳台有草有花，中午晒着太阳睡在了躺椅上。偶尔闹闹脾气，我哭，你哄，你怒，我聋。我们记性都差，吵了架扭脸就忘。踏着夕阳西下，一路上聊得嘻嘻哈哈，捧回半个西瓜……
The house does not need to be too big, there are grass and flowers on the balcony, and I slept on the deck chair in the sun at noon. Occasionally noisy temper, I cry, you coax, you angry, I deaf. We all have bad memories. We get in an argument and turn around and forget. Under the setting sun, chatting all the way, holding back half a watermelon...
如果这就是我们的一生，该有多好。
If this is our life, how wonderful.
前段时间去黄山参加音乐节的时候，回程的路上摄影师姝姝一直闷闷不乐，时不时地看看手机。
Recently, when she went to huangshan to attend a music festival, photographer Shu Shu was unhappy all the way back, checking her mobile phone from time to time.
原来她和男朋友因为周末要去看哪部电影的问题吵架了，但这次和以往不同，以前每次吵架，不管是谁的错都是他男朋友道歉，经常是大包的水果零食直接寄到工作室。
It turned out that she and her boyfriend had quarreled about which movie they were going to see this weekend, but this time it was different from the past. Every time they quarreled, no matter who was at fault, her boyfriend apologized, often with large bags of fruit snacks delivered directly to the studio.
姝姝删掉他的微信，他就用QQ、邮件、网易云音乐、支付宝、微博……一切能想到的社交工具联系她，那个时候他还包不起520的红包，但是她却看到一颗害怕失去她的心。
When Shu Shu deleted his wechat, he used QQ, email, NetEase Cloud Music, Alipay, Weibo... Every social tool imaginable contacted her, at that time he still can not pack 520 red envelope, but she saw a heart afraid of losing her.
而这次男朋友却没有哄她，两个人已经冷战了好几天，姝姝给他发消息也不会。
But this time the boyfriend did not coax her, the two have been cold for several days, Shu Shu to send him messages will not.
直到第四天的时候，男朋友给她发了红包道歉，说话也冷冷淡淡。
Until the fourth day, her boyfriend gave her a red envelope to apologize and spoke coldly.
姝姝说：从不厌其烦到爱答不理，哄我的方式越来越敷衍，爱我的态度也越来越肤浅。
Shu Shu said: from tired to indifferent, coax me more and more perfunctory way, love me more and more superficial attitude.
的确是这样的，从一个人哄你的方式，就能看到他到底有多爱你。
That's true. The way someone treats you, you can tell how much they love you.
哄你，是因为你重要。当他渐渐地厌倦哄你，也就说明你在他心里越来越不重要。
Coaxing you, because you are important. When he is tired of coaxing you, it means that you are less and less important in his heart.
余秋雨说： 我藏不住秘密，也藏不住忧伤，正如我藏不住爱你的喜悦，藏不住分离时的彷徨。
Yu Qiuyu say: I hide not secret, also hide not sad, as I hide not love your joy, hide not separation of hesitation.
没错，爱和不爱都是藏不住的，你见过他用力爱你的样子，见过他害怕失去你时的惊慌，也就知道这一番敷衍不是别的，而是不爱了。
Yes, love and do not love are not hidden, you have seen his hard love you, saw his fear of losing you when panic, also know that this perfunctory is not other, but do not love.
一个不愿意哄你的男人，一定是不够爱你。
A man who is not willing to coax you must not love you enough.
邻居树哥是小区有名的宠妻狂魔，在他看来没有什么是哄不好的。
Neighbor tree elder brother is village famous dote on wife wild demon, what is coax bad in his eyes.
这两天树嫂出差了，昨晚他来我家找我喝酒，正喝到尽兴，他一看手机快十点了，接着就说：“今天就到这儿吧，我先回去了。”
These two days tree sister-in-law was on a business trip, last night he came to my house to find me drink, is drinking to enjoy, he looked at the mobile phone nearly ten, then said: "today here, I go back first."
我说：“就你一个人，着什么急啊。”树哥笑了笑说：
I said, "You're the only one. What's the hurry?" The tree smiled and said:
“不行，我要回去哄你嫂子睡觉，她出差认床而且胆小，我要开视频哄她才行，要不然她害怕睡不着。”
"No, I have to go back to coax your sister-in-law to sleep, she went on a business trip to recognize the bed and timid, I have to open video coax her to go, otherwise she is afraid to sleep."
这一把狗粮吃得我猝不及防！
This handful of dog food caught me off guard!
以前光知道树哥温柔体贴脾气好，跟他做了好几年的邻居，从来没听到他在家里动过大声，什么事都是好声好气地哄着树嫂，这次算是知道了什么是极致的宠爱。
Before light know tree elder brother gentle and considerate good temper, with him to do several years of neighbor, never heard him in the home to move loud, what things are good to coax the tree sister-in-law, this is to know what is the acme of love.
后来我才知道，树嫂第一次出差的时候整整一晚上没睡，回来就大病了一场，给树哥心疼坏了。
Later I learned that tree sister-in-law did not sleep for a whole night during her first business trip, and came back seriously ill. She felt bad for the tree brother.
从那之后，只要树嫂出差，树哥都会准时在十点的时候跟她视频，视频一开就是一整晚，树嫂那边有什么动静，树哥都能察觉到。树嫂也说，
From then on, as long as the tree sister-in-law business trip, tree elder brother will be on time at ten o 'clock with her video, video is open all night, there is anything moving tree sister-in-law, tree elder brother can be aware of. And the tree-sister-in-law said,
“能听到他的呼吸声很踏实，就像他就在身边一样，他好像总有办法让我心安。”
"It was so reassuring to hear his breathing, like he was there, and he always seemed to have a way of reassuring me."
我终于明白，一个真正把你放在心里的人，不光会在你生气的时候哄你，更是在日常的每一件小事上哄你，他会竭尽全力让你安心，给你最大的安全感。
I finally understand that a person who really puts you in his heart will not only coax you when you are angry, but also coax you in every little thing in daily life. He will do his best to make you feel at ease and give you the greatest sense of security.
“一个人爱你，会在心里时时记挂着你，一个人很爱很爱你，会在平时处处纵容着你。只有那些把你看得比他自己还重要的人，才会宠着你。”
"A person loves you, will always remember you in my heart, a person loves you very much, will indulge you everywhere at ordinary times. The only people who spoil you are those who care more about you than themselves."
愿意哄你的人，爱你最深。
Willing to coax you, love you the most.
居筱亦也曾经在书里面写过这样一句话：这一路，饮过烈酒，红过眼眶，心如死灰，孤独成性，直到遇见你，风住，雨停，雾散尽。
Reside xiao also once had written such a word inside the book: this all the way, had drunk strong liquor, red had crossed orbit, the heart is like dead ash, lonely by nature, until meet you, wind lives, rain stops, fog disperses.
我相信你们都能遇到一个愿意哄你的人，为你遮住风、挡住雨，为你拨开迷雾，守住余生的阳光。
I believe that you can meet a willing to coax you, cover the wind for you, block the rain, for you to clear the fog, keep the rest of the sun.